But I am right, and you are wrong!

Today my husband and I had a disagreement, and typically he will have an opinion that most of the time differs from mine, and in the past we argued until we were blue in the face, and took a brick to add to the growing wall that was building between us.  We come from such different backgrounds that we disagree on how to do many things. But God has blessed me to honor my husband.

Ephesians 5:22-24

22: Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. ²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Today as we argued, I began to see the enemies devices, a spirit began to rise in me causing me to feel attacked, rejected and belittled, as my husband argued his point. This feeling placed me on the defensive and I began to battle in my own will. The Holy Spirit came to me and said submit yourself to the Lord and go to him in prayer. But I pushed that aside, because the desire to show my husband that I was right took hold of me.   I stood before my husband and explained to him what I felt the bible said and ignored the holy spirits call. I began to argue my point and the situation began to get worse. The more I pushed my point the more my husband closed off his heart and pushed his point. The enemy was gaining ground, because by this time, I was so anger that tears began to drop down my face. Then the Holy Spirit came to me again, and convicted me to submit to my husband. I slowly pulled away from him and explained that if he wanted things to be done that way then I am in agreement. He looked and me and his mouth dropped open. I said, “Honey, you are the head of this household, if you feel that this is how it should be done, then that is how we will do it, but first lets consult with God and ask him for clarity”, He then said, “your right, can you show me the scripture that you were referring to?”, I pulled out the bible and he began to read. By this time, I realized that when we want a Job, or a deal to go through or just to be blessed with good fortune, we go to God in prayer, why wouldn’t we do the same in disagreements? As he completed his reading he said “Honey I see what you mean, I agree with you”. It was my turn for my mouth to drop open. As god give wives definite direction he does for husbands as well.

Ephesians 5:25-28

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her ²⁶ to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, ²⁷ and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. ²⁸ In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

We know that our spouse’s need our support and prayer, when a disagreement comes about we need to go to God immediately, his word is clear definition of what should happen. As I move forward in my walk, I don’t want to make it easy for the enemy, I know that prayer avails much and everything we do should be through the council of our God. He has a plan for us and a way around the enemy’s traps and snares.

Our Prayer for the Week:

Dear Lord, I give you praise and honor that _____’s mind is steadfast because he trusts in You, and that You will always keep him in perfect peace. Isaiah 26:3
And I thank You that he will always listen to You and live in safety and at ease, without fear of harm or evil. Proverbs 1:33
I give You praise, Lord, that _____ is blessed, and does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. Thank You that he delights in Your law and meditates on Your Word day and night, and that he is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. And thank You that whatever he does prospers.
Psalm 1:1-3